Couples Counseling & Coaching
I help you fix communication roadblocks and feel close again.
Couples who split up show clear warning indicators.
· distance, lack of affection
· increased arguing, criticism, sarcasm
· mistrust, secrecy
If you're experiencing any of these, it's important you take action to improve things between you and your partner. Left unattended, these patterns are likely to worsen.
Counseling for Couples or Marital Counseling
Relationship counseling at Beyond Diagnosis Counseling can be beneficial for couples whether they are married or not. The method of relationship therapy we use has a positive focus, and helps couples to build skills and recognize the habits and patterns that cause problems for them. Marital counseling will strengthen your connection and provide you with new ideas about how to detour around old arguments and gain a fresh approach.
Couples counseling does not involve a relationship therapist refereeing arguments, choosing sides, or advising coupes they should split up. Couple counseling that is done effectively involves the relationship counselor giving feedback, interrupting negative patterns, and demonstrating positive and useful ways of interacting.
When couples use their relationship therapist for guidance and try new approaches, they are often surprised by how quickly they make the improvements they had wished for, and thus become more hopeful about their relationship.
Most couples who fall into ineffective habits do so because of a lack of skills in communication, dealing with conflict, or expressing intimacy.
You may not know how exactly to address ongoing resentments, lack of closeness, breaches of trust, affairs or jealousy, or anger. However, the action-oriented, skill-developing type of counseling I offer can definitely help, and often in a surprisingly short time.
Couples who come to see me may be seeking improvements in a basically positive relationship, or may have very serious concerns about their future together. I provide help for communication problems and misunderstandings, unproductive arguing and disagreements. Even if you are facing a distance in your relationship that has grown over time, chances are I can assist you in having the kinds of conversations you need to, in order to bridge the gap. I have enormous respect for the struggle involved in developing a truly strong intimate relationship.
My approach creates productive communication, rebuilds trust, and renews the emotional intimacy you are seeking. I use methods from the best of modern research. From your first sessions with me, you'll be seeing things from new angles. You'll take home information that can help you change stuck patterns and habits so your relationship can become a source of love and caring again.
I work with and support couples who are straight, gay, lesbian, in transition, monogamous, poly or in other creative relationship structures.
My services are of course absolutely private and confidential, so I’m not describing exact stories of clients' lives here, but these are common reasons couples come to talk with me.
Do any of these sound like your relationship?
-We keep running into communication blocks. I'm so tired of the same arguments over and over.
-We have a solid relationship, but I want to make it better. We're great partners when it comes to everyday stuff, but we're so focused on the details of life that we just don't really talk about much anymore. We used to talk about everything.
-My partner had an affair. I can't stop thinking about it, and yet he wants me to let it go and move on. I never knew how badly this would hurt. I want our marriage back. How does anybody get over this?
-I want my partner to reason with me and stop spending so much money. I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. The relationship can't possibly last with this kind of stress!
-Our relationship is comfortable but there's really no intimacy anymore. Sometimes I wonder if we should still be together, or if there's somebody better out there for me.
How can I help you to improve the quality of your intimate relationship? Call 651-775-2084 or email me at Lori@BeyondDiagnosisCounseling.com to set up a free 30 minute face to face consultation on how I can be of help,